Before 23andme.com DNA kits, before genetic testing, before people poured through old census and courthouse records, our family had the best tool to connect with our ancestors—our parents, Fran and Bill Cohen.
Bill Cohen claimed he could sniff out family from ten feet or from 200 years away. According to Dad, we were related to Sir Moses Montefiore, a nineteenth century British financier and philanthropist; Stubby Kaye , American actor and comedian most famous for his role as Nicely-Nicely in Guys and Dolls; and Madeline Kunin, the former governor of Vermont.
Dad didn’t regard fame as the only criteria to be considered mishpachah (Yiddish for a Jewish family or social unit including close and distant relatives ). If one had any Jewish connection, Dad would find some link no matter how obscure and embrace them as one of our own .
While my father connected, my mother, Frances Cohen, kept a more reliable account of our family tree. Even into her nineties, my mother could share the convoluted genealogical history of our huge family. To add to the complexity, my father’s grandfather married my mother’s great-aunt, first cousins married first cousins; and two sisters from Vermont married two brothers from Toronto.That is not only a great deal of mishpachah but a great deal of mishagas (confusion)! My brother Jay would listen for hours, jotting down rough drafts of the convoluted branches on yellow legal pads that he filed away for “later.”
Jay also spent a great deal of time talking to our parents about the chain of family run department stores that are intrinsically entwined into our family’s history.
Pearl’s Department Stores began in the early 1900s, when our maternal great-uncle Paul Osovitz, unable to continue in the New York City sweat shops because of respiratory problems, was given money by his older sister Lillian to start a business in Vermont. Initially living with his uncle Archic Perelman in Burlington, Paul peddled wares he carried on his back throughout the rural parts of Vermont and Upstate New York.He saved enough to purchase a horse and cart. As his business grew, he invited his brother Joe to join him.
Paul and Joe opened up their first store in Alburg, Vermont. As people knew them as the “Perelman Boys,” they chose the name of “Pearl’s Department Store.” To make the moniker even more accurate, they and most of the family changed their surname to Pearl. They opened a second store in Swanton, Vermont. Joe eventually went back to New York City. Paul began building a small dynasty of over 20 stores, employing his relatives as managers and clerks. Our father, Bill Cohen, was one of those relatives, spending most of his life managing one of Uncle Paul’s stores in Keeseville, New York.
By the late 1980s, however, big box stores and highway systems like the Northway, rang the death knell for small-town family run businesses. Pearl’s closed its last store in 1988, only remembered through those that worked or shopped there and dusty records.
In 2015, my brother Jay, retired and always loving “minutia and trivia,” began researching the history of each of the stores and the families involved. He Googled the internet for news stories, advertisements, and pictures. He contacted historians in the stores’ towns. He reached out to the descendants of the relatives that managed or worked in Paul’s stores. He then expanded his research to include stores and businesses owned by mishpachah that were not connected to Pearls, including paternal relatives and my in-laws, who owned Shapiros of Schuylerville in Upstate New York.
Jay incorporated all his findings into a website he called afamilyofstores.com. “If you grew up in upstate New York (‘the North Country’) or in northern Vermont anywhere from the 1930s through the 1980s you probably remember a Pearl’s Department Store in your hometown,” Jay wrote on the site’s home page. “You went there with your mom or your friends. You bought your Wrangler jeans and your school clothes or a Christmas gift. A Pearl’s store was there before the Kmart’s, Ames, and Walmart’s and the Northway.”
The ongoing project, which Jay calls a “labor of love,” also drew on his interest in genealogy. His two sons began hounding him. “Learning about Pearl’s is fine,” they said. “But when are you going to pull out all those yellow legal pads you have stuffed in a drawer and create a family tree for posterity?” It took a pandemic to motivate Jay to dig them out.
Early in the COVID lockdown, my three siblings and I connected with our paternal first cousins through weekly Zoom sessions. As we continued to shelter in place, our group of seven expanded to include over 22 cousins, their spouses, and even their children.
Each meeting was consumed by the question, “How are we all related?” Jay, who had screen shared his afamilyofstores.com website, offered to pull it all together.
Using a template from ancestry.com, Mom’s notes, his website, and updated information he gathered from the Tuesday Zooms, Jay meticulously created the framework of a family tree that will document both paternal and maternal sides of our ever expanding family. When finished, it will include everyone from Moses Montifiore (Dad was right, as he was about Stubby Kaye and Madeline Kunin) to my nine-month old grandson, a span of over 200 years. Thanks to Jay’s efforts, we not only know our roots but also our far-flung branches.
Why don’t we all submit our DNA to one of the popular ancestry sites to learn more? Two reasons. First, our entire family history goes back to the shtetl in Eastern European. Those of us who have had tests done show us as 98% Ashkenazi (Jews with roots in Eastern Europe). No surprises there. The second reason is that—well— we have more relatives than we can handle! Jay said that he expects to connect the family tree to over 1000 people.
And if we finally cave in, send a sample of our saliva to a testing site, and find even more? Bring them on! After all, we are Bill and Fran Cohen’s children. And we love our family…all of them.
A version of this article originally appeared in the Jewish World News, a bi-weekly subscription-based newspaper in upstate New York in the January 7, 2020, issue.
I LOVED this story! Sam and I have been connecting with far-flung, geographically and genealogically and love to hear about other families!
Marilyn – I loved reading about your family history. You are so fortunate to have this history. My parents came over from Latvia before the 2nd world war and lost both their parents and some siblings. They always refused to talk about them, the war, etc. Debbie once had to write an essay for school about one set of grandparents. My parents refused to discuss it, and misunderstood the purpose – they thought it was none of the teacher’s business. Debbie then called a relative and was able to gather enough material to write the essay. ________________________________
I love it! Very interesting.
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Great article! Heartwarming! Marsha
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Hi Marilyn, What an interesting family tree/project and the family zoom to discover more about each other is awesome! Do you have someone each time who tells about their family? Wouldn’t that be fun!! Sylvie has told me about the family zoom meeting…I love the old stories!
Thanks for sharing. Marilyn
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Thank you, Marilyn, for this. Strangely, just a few minutes before I saw this article, I opened a package, sent by my cousin Tom, with a very detailed family tree from the German side of my family..more precisely my grandmother’s side of my father’s family. I enjoyed your description of all those involved in finding both your Mom’s and Dad’s family history. I wish my parents had told me more detail of both sides. I did remember that Stubby Kaye is a cousin of some sorts to my grandmother and that he lived with his sister named Ruth who was reportedly a wonderful cook, which is likely why he never married…not sure if she was married. I believe Kaye was a stage name. So much for family trivia that I know. As usual your stories are a pleasure to read. Love, Ruth. PS. Wishing you, Larry and the family a very Happy, Healthy 2021.
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Very nice story, Marilyn. It accords well with my mother Bea’s account of the family history. As for “Joe eventually went back to New York,” he might have, but the important point is that Paul and Joe soon opened a Pearl’s Dep’t Store in Swanton, Vermont–probably the second in the chain. On the picture that you sent; I assume from the age of the participants that this must have been some sort of anniversary of Paul and Berdie, and from the absence of Uncle Morris, that it must have taken place after 1949, when he died so prematurely. (Incidentally, I think that Stubby Kaye;s name in Guys and Dolls was Nicely-Nicely.)–Cousin Arthur Silverstein
Thanks for the corrections! I will make them. The picture was from Elliot Pearl’s wedding to Louise. I don’t know what year. I was judging from age of my grandparents, who looked around 80. So I thought it was closer to 1960. You may know. And I was culling information from Aunt Bea’s stories as well as my mom’s and dad’s.
This one was great story. Loved it.
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